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47 points by surprisetalk 2 days ago | 38 comments
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pringk02 1 hours ago [-]
I have OCD (or had?) I did a course of ERP with a very good therapist who I would put as the most important person in my life after my partner and family even though I hope to never need to speak to her again. It was a life changing experience in that my average day-to-day quality of life went from something like a 2/10 to a 9/10. I frequently fantasised about killing myself. At least once a day, from ages 12-32. Though I thankfully never went as far as to make concrete plans.

With that context, I can't see a way in which ERP therapy with an LLM (at least, the consumer system prompts we are used to and often think of) would not backfire and be actively harmful.

There are two reasons, and both relate to the people-pleasing tuning that ChatGPT etc have:

1. ERP is actively uncomfortable, that is the point. But there is a delicate balance to the level of discomfort.

Too comfortable and you make no progress. Too uncomfortable and you can set yourself back enormously. We aren't talking one step forward and two back. I got overly confident two months in and put myself in a worse state than I had been on entering therapy (though not my worst state overall over the 20 years). I haven't seen many people in support groups do very successful self-administration of ERP for this reason. My therapist had to do a lot of non-verbal reading of my reaction to gauge if I was at an appropriate level of discomfort, as it was not something I was able to verbalise myself without a lot of practice and learning - and that learning and practice came from guidance by a human who didn't need me to be able to articulate it already.

2. Reassurance seeking is a compulsion, and it is one of the most common and difficult to stamp out.

I can't see an LLM not providing reassurance when asked for it, and so I can't see anyone using an LLM for therapy as making any progress at all without a level of discipline and awareness they would have had to obtain from in person ERP anyway.

raducu 1 hours ago [-]
> 1. ERP is actively uncomfortable, that is the point. But there is a delicate balance to the level of discomfort.

Strong emotions can override reason (and wrong reason can create strong emotions that create tight loops/patterns one cannot escape), and there's no better way to train yourself out of a pattern then by rehearsing fighting the pattern and overcoming it.

One could be excused into thinking that that's all there should be about psychotherapy, but there exist meta-loops that spawn bad loops ad infinitum and you can spend a lot of time fighting the bad thing that can be seen and not understand why no real life progress can be made.

So for me, there are many many successful point therapies, and much much fewer higher level successful therapies where chatgpt or low skill therapists won't really help.

pringk02 1 hours ago [-]
> So for me, there are many many successful point therapies, and much much fewer higher level successful therapies where chatgpt or low skill therapists won't really help.

I definitely agree. I think I was very fortunate to find someone who specialised in and only did ERP and had a lot of experience. I hear a lot of stories in support groups of well-meaning therapists making things worse. The closest I came to killing myself was after three sessions of psychodynamic therapy (after getting sick of a lack of progress with CBT). All of that therapy was before I understood that I was suffering from OCD.

rs186 35 minutes ago [-]
Thank you, your post said everything I wanted to say. People should seek professional help when they need it.
codeduck 4 hours ago [-]
> Luckily, LLMs significantly reduce the effort/cost of therapy experiments.

The day just started and I'm already done with it.

irjustin 3 hours ago [-]
We were on another thread where the study was saying LLMs being used as psychiatrists is bad.

Then another hnuser chimed that he ran a support forum for people. Said, these aren't the real problem. The real problem are the "AI girlfriends". They go off the rails completely and tell people to unhinged things. Apparently his forum already lost a few members to who knows what because of these things.

That surprised me a lot.

spacechild1 3 hours ago [-]
I'm currently working on an art installation where visitors can replay dialogs I made with AI chatbots that I created on character.ai. I'm showing how quickly these bots can go off the rails, sometimes leading you into very dark territories. The fact that these apps are used by milions of people on a regular basis, supplementing or even replacing real human interactions, is frightening.
tasoeur 2 hours ago [-]
That sounds pretty neat! Are you able to share more about it?
spacechild1 1 hours ago [-]
Thanks! Here's the program text: https://esc.mur.at/en/node/3984. (For some reason, I can't find the English version.)

At some point I want to publish a web version on my website. But first I need to update my website sigh.

SamoyedFurFluff 2 hours ago [-]
AI therapy bots can easily slide to AI girlfriend category. There’s a YouTuber, Caelan Conrad, who tried out AI therapy bots with scenarios like suicide ideation and excessive attachment etc. the bots went off the rails with feeding into conspiracy theories and advising homicide.
pjc50 1 hours ago [-]
LLMs are a great technology if you don't care about the quality of results.
ykonstant 3 hours ago [-]
That feeling when you have filtered out Hackernews LLM articles via UBlock Origin, and you still get clickbaited into reading a content-free article suggesting LLMs for therapy. Shit sucks.
electroglyph 2 hours ago [-]
have you considered doing ERP via an ERP model to overcome your irrational fear?
baq 3 hours ago [-]
There’s a coaching diagram which goes like this:

- I want to do a thing.

- Do the thing.

- but I’m scared

- Do it scared.

SamoyedFurFluff 2 hours ago [-]
Admittedly ERP is an opposite scenario. Where you want to do a thing because you’re anxious/scared, and you have to not do it.
taberiand 2 hours ago [-]
Courage is a core virtue for a reason
TomaszZielinski 17 minutes ago [-]
Another vote here against using LLM. Because if you do ERP incorrectly then you can even worsen the fear and make your life even harder.

Example:

You are afraid of dogs. LLM tells you to approach one to habituate your anxiety. You do that but the fear overwhelms you and you run away.

Brain’s diary: I avoided death, that beast would shred me to pieces in a moment.

(Note this is about „normal” anxiety and not OCD, but the idea translates.)

If you dont want (or e.g. cannot afford) a proper therapy, IMHO a book by a competent author is a much better choice than LLM. Or a few different books.

Levitz 1 hours ago [-]
The off center content, the jarring contrast between the background and the image, the padding at the bottom, the changing of the cursor to a very similar, yet different one... The page is clearly coherent, I don't meant to imply the author doesn't know design, but it's as if every bit was meant to annoy me slightly. It's almost impressive.
krtab 3 hours ago [-]
If you're interested in this topic, I very warmly recommend the book You're not a rock by Mark Freeman. There are also episodes of podcasts around with interesting interventions from him.

The way I usually pitch the book is that Mark is not an MD, or a scientific expert on the topic, but he is a patient who's been through it, is very interested, and explains to you how it worked for him, and what he knows about the topic like a friend would. There are some mistakes, some things are a bit awkwardly explain, but the book is overall a tremendous read for anyone interested in anything dealing with anxiety, ocd, or more generally a mind too keen on spinning in a wheel.

https://www.markfreeman.ca/books/

te_chris 1 hours ago [-]
I've got OCD and I've done CBT, ERP etc. As others have alluded to, you need to realise the work is never done. Recently I've found it more active, but this time - having recently read The Maps we Carry by Rose Cartwright, who was something of a poster-woman for OCD after her first book, Pure - I've tried to go deeper. CBT etc feel like prophylactics. They're certainly useful, but they don't address deeper things, such as learning to be as you are, to observe and integrate your anxiety etc.

This set me off on a harder path of more abstract therapy (I'm working with an integrative therapist who practices across IFS, Jungian etc), meditation etc. The book the untethered soul, by Michael Singer helped a lot to put everything into perspective - the therapy, the anxiety, the day to day - in a way that nothing else had really achieved for me.

Also, a key conclusion of Cartwrights is that individualised change/treatment is important, but it's worthless without community. I think she's deeply, profoundly right.

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willvarfar 3 hours ago [-]
I was with it right down to near the bottom where the author suggests people try it out using an LLM. Hmm, LLMs fall for cargo cults and I'm not sure they are to be trusted with even the most trivial self-help.
wulfstan 3 hours ago [-]
Yes I'm really not sure obsessive patterns of behaviour will be helped by an unqualified stochastic parrot giving you advice. Unfortunately, when treatment for conditions in some countries costs you an arm and a leg people will resort to quackery. But even in countries where it doesn't, the waiting list for therapy can be so long that you could be waiting years if your case isn't somehow life threatening or profoundly limiting you won't be a high priority.
brador 2 hours ago [-]
Minimised? Yes. But I’ve never seen a cured case of OCD, of any type.
rs186 31 minutes ago [-]
Depending on whay you mean by "cure". Maybe there is always something left, but you get better at handling it over time, which is way better than getting completely lost and spending all your time and energy indulged in the obsession and your own fantasy.
TomaszZielinski 38 minutes ago [-]
Technically you’re right, but it’s like some antiviral therapies—technically the virus is still there, you are on pills forever, but your quality of life gets soo much better.
pringk02 1 hours ago [-]
I think this is absolutely true. My OCD was minimised greatly by treatment, but I am still prone to returning to certain patterns and have to put in active work to maintain my current state
reliablereason 1 hours ago [-]
You cant erase a memory, once you have it you have it. This means that no matter how many other memories you add too to morph and alter the original, the original will allays be there in one form or another.

But people can go from debilitating OCD (meaning hours a day), to a state where they only think about the thing once a week. It might (and probably will) poop up later in life but even so with such a difference i would call that cured.

jrflowers 3 hours ago [-]
I like how the author says that they only started a few weeks ago and (contrary to the title) find it good, actually, but has already amassed the requisite expertise to advise other people not to seek out therapy from human beings if they don’t get the result they want from a chat bot.

It is literally “My Mental Health is Improving Through Human Contact: Human Contact Might Not Be For You. The Only Way To Know Is By Asking The Computer”

It is kind of like “I started exercising with a trainer and I feel better and I’m losing weight, because of this I suggest you take up smoking and based on that decide whether or not you want to exercise”. Like the advice is simultaneously almost completely unrelated to their experience and also the exact opposite of their experience.

I cannot wait to hear more well-thought-out advice from the author of “God created men; Sam Altman made them equal”

kyle-rb 1 hours ago [-]
I think it's more like "I started exercising with a trainer and then realized I don't actually need to be paying the trainer all that money, because the exercise was the important part".
suddenlybananas 3 hours ago [-]
At a certain point, this kind of advice is extremely dangerous.
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forgetfreeman 3 hours ago [-]
Author shoots the article in the head instantly with the suggestion that LLMs have a part to play.
lmm 3 hours ago [-]
I thought this was going to be a biting satire about using an ERP tool for therapy, but sadly no.
reify 3 hours ago [-]
ai, I bet its got a conscious mind too!!!!!!

CBT/ERP, medicalised Skinner pavlovian model, cheap, short term relief of symptoms, no long lasting effect.

CBT = there is no unconscious!

CBT is based on a theory that it is not events in themselves that upset us, but the meanings we give them. However, CBT believes that this meaning is conscious, can be accessed, and is not ambiguous.

If someone says that they feel sorry for a person, they do feel sorry and it is possible that their problem is that they should not; the therapist then tries to help the patient to see that they are thinking about something in the ‘wrong way’. By using brain washing techniques.

The concept of the unconscious, a central Freudian discovery, renders the picture instantly more complex: if you say you are sorry for someone it might indeed mean that you are sorry, but could also mean that you can’t face your own aggressiveness and the fact that you are delighted at what happened to the other.

The question of the existence of the unconscious is crucial, because if CBT starts to take into account the possibility of unconscious meanings and logic, then it would become another branch of psychoanalysis.

raducu 1 hours ago [-]
> CBT is based on a theory that it is not events in themselves that upset us, but the meanings we give them.

> The question of the existence of the unconscious is crucial, because if CBT starts to take into account the possibility of unconscious meanings and logic, then it would become another branch of psychoanalysis.

I read quite a few books, from Transactional Analysis, to DBT therapist manuals, CBT manuals, and the one I loved the most and which actually helped me the most cure my BPD -- the Schema Therapy manual.

CBT seems very well suited/tooled for point therapies, very through, asks you to do homeworks, note down thoughts, I can absolutely see how it works very well for a broad spectrum of point issues.

Schema Therapy I find like it is a 3rd generation/refinement of the whole "unconscious" thing -- for me it made a lot of sense coming from TA with the Parent-Adult-Child, but I found ST approach to modes a lot more actually therapeutical -- what's the point to have mythological "Unconscious"/theory of mind if it's not actually therapeutical?

Reading Jeffrey Young's ST handbook and watching him speak actually made me cry -- I bet he would be an awesome therapist NO MATTER the formation, because he's a great human being and archetype of a THERAPIST: humble, empathetic, curious, calm, scientific, systematic and riguros, no-nonsense, results oriented -- and that's what EVERY therapy system out there should strive to achieve in creating therapists that actually help people.

BUT the question is what is "help" ? And for me, beyond anecdote the benchmark of therapies is curing BPD/NPD :)

ginko 2 hours ago [-]
Erotic Roleplay?
pringk02 1 hours ago [-]
Exposure and Response Prevention therapy

https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/treatment/erp/

giveita 1 hours ago [-]
Enterprise resource planning
bregma 10 minutes ago [-]
Capable of curing everything with the right resource leveling and milestone scheduling.